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I think her vintage Priscilla Presley hair styles and general golden age glamour is absolutely breathtaking. That being said, her more casual qt """soft grunge""" look gives her this girl next door look which has it's own certain charm. I think Lana can pull off a variety of looks quite well and I actually hope she continues to do so because the way she transcends different styles and eras is quite interesting.

i prefer naked lana tbh

She's definitely a little special, but whether or not she has psychiatric disorder is too hard to tell. Where does one even draw the line between personality traits and a disorder...

Elizabeth was very special. She began at a young age to think like an adult. For example : To drink alcohol when you're feeling bad and bored and want to explore life. She did it very early but the question was why she did that. And I think many people (especially interviewers) had not idea why lana is singing about all this (dark?) stuff in her Born to Die Album. It's how some of yours already said : She felt into depressions where she couldn't get away from them because there is something that makes it difficult. Last year my mother fell ill. It was a nervous disease. Something like that Is dangerous believe me. And it was so dangerous that the police came at the end. She went to the hospital for three months and every evening I sat down, hearing to Lanas music and cried. It was terrible and I was kind of standing alone. I felt into these depressions with the time. But I knewed that I wasn't alone. And another question was : Why me ?. I mean why not one of my friends? When she retourned home I wasn't happy at all. I went to the psychologist because I felt wrong and not anymore so like before. But he was an ********, because he wanted so much money (also when the insurance payed it) just to listen and remembering my stories and also talking to my parents and in fact wasting my time. He didn't also even thought like I do. So what I want to say is : People are changing fast. Falling into Depressions too. But getting out not so easy and fast. And that I think a little bit like by lana. There were some events for example the death of a friend, that changed her so much that there became a war in her mind. Oh and sorry that I am a little bit to emotional and sensitive in this text.

Sad is happy to me. I love it. When I write something bittersweet, I smile.
I can relate so much.

I think I found more evidence of Mizrahi shenanigans. Take a look at this archive of the page for Lana Del Ray when it was up on iTunes. Specifically, take a look at the first review, "Mickey loves Lana" by "Mickey knocks" and the part that describes her songs as "mostly to do with meeting men, in questionable places". Compare that to Mike Mizrahi's Knocks from the Underground review which describes her songs as "mostly to do with meeting men, going to questionable places and having dysfunctional relationships".

GIF that i made (if someone hasn't already made one)

As I've alluded to previously on LanaBoards, and mentioned on my covers-themed Lana Del Reydio show, I've been sitting on some information relating to Mike Mizrahi since June. I sat on it for a long time because I soon became aware of their relationship and I don't feel it's appropriate to dig into Lana's personal relationships with people who are not otherwise public figures, especially naming names, unless there's a clear song reference. And even though I found information of legitimate interest to fans, I didn't know of a way to share it without pointing people in his direction. But since their relationship has already been discussed quite extensively, I now feel there's no harm in revealing the information I found.
 
Lana has an actress profile on IMDb under Lizzy Grant (I). It lists three films she was supposedly in, all of which take place in NYC and were filmed there. Two of the films, Ho's and Mo's and Mr. Finch are short films directed by Michael L. Mizrahi.
 
A quick Google search turns up his Youtube account, IamMikeMizrahi. Both films appear to uploaded to this account in their entirety, each split into two parts.
 
Ho's and Mo's
 
 
 
Mr. Finch
 
 
 
The IMDb page for Ho's and Mo's shows Lizzy Grant playing a character named Gina. But neither her nor her character are listed in the film's end credits. If you watch the whole thing, you'll see that she's not in it. However, take a look at the lone comment at the bottom of the Youtube page for Part 1. UhaulJoe (one of Lana's YouTube accounts) writes "Love this movie!!"
 
The IMDb page for Mr. Finch shows Lizzy Grant playing a character named Katie Finch.
Again, neither her nor her character are listed in the film's end credits. Based on the age of the Mr. Finch character, if she were to play a Katie Finch, she'd probably have to be his daughter, but there's nothing about that in the plot.
 
The third movie listed on the Lizzy Grant (I) IMDb profile is White Irish Drinkers which is a feature length film. Lizzy Grant is supposed to have a small role playing a character named Diane. Guess who IMDb lists as a location manager for this film? Yep, Michael L. Mizrahi. Looking through his IMDb profile and other online profiles, it's clear his main profession is as a location scout/manager. (A child actor with a decent IMDb resume named Regan Mizrahi has a larger role in the film, but looking at his Wikipedia page-- yes, this kid has a Wikipedia page-- I don't think he's related. "Son of an actress and a doctor." Although, I supposed it's possible the doctor is not his biological father.) Again, there's no Diane in the movie.
 
However, I checked out the film from the library and I'm 90% sure I spotted her as an extra. I showed these snapshots to Maru and CalendarGirl back in the days of LDR.FM, and they were 100% certain is was her. She's in the far right of the frame:
 
 
 
Here's one CalendarGirl took:
 
 
 
Now before you rush out to buy White Irish Drinkers to complete your Lana collection I should tell you that it looks like kind of a shitty movie and those are the only frames of the entire film that she's in. It rivals those vocal samples I found on that Tamarama song in terms of insignificance.
 
But WTF is going on here? My suspicion is that this was an exercise in resume padding. Possibly to try to secure roles in other films. Perhaps Poolside, the Rex Arrow film, or
. 
I also suspect that the Knocks from the Underground review he wrote may have been a friendly or planted interview. (It wouldn't be the first. The Index magazine interview was done by Brea Tremblay, another musician who played at the same Songwriter's Hall of Fame New Writer's Showcase and was also mentored by Bob Leone.) I suspect this based on the fact that they were supposedly together two years (according to a source extremely close to the situation ) in conjunction with the fact that a
was uploaded to his YouTube account in November 2010 means they had to have been living together at least a couple months prior to the February 2009 Arlene's Grocery show he reviewed, unless their living together overlapped his marriage, which I doubt, or he married the other woman almost immediately after they broke up and the source is exaggerating the two years time frame somewhat. Although, this Facebook post, which predates that show by only a few weeks, sure doesn't sound like they were living together yet. 

 
I don't know. It's all very strange. But if they were living together at the time of that interview, it means she might have had more control over its content.

I still like my Lynchian psychogenic fugue theory.
 
Open up your butterfly doors, heavy hitter. Let's ch-ch-change our DNA.

Queen of Saigon is a reference to excess and she uses it to criticize commercialism in NA. 

This is just a guess, but Queen of Saigon could be a reference to the Vietnam War, when lots of American soldiers were fighting over there. Pin up girls were very popular with soldiers back in the days and Lana might refer to herself as the pin up queen of all the soldiers hearts and fantasies, making her the Queen of Saigon. Just another of her ways of fetishizing herself in line with "Trailer Park Darling" or "Queen of the Gas Station". 
 
But yeah, that title is sort of bugging me too, especially as it's in "National Anthem" so I can't help but think if there's a more political meaning to it. 

A lot of stuff she's mentioned before, but a few really pleasant surprises here: As someone who always rolled their eyes at Lana's superficial fondness for Kurt Cobain (and found Nirvana overrated compared to the other major grunge bands anyway), it's nice to see Pearl Jam and Mark Lanegan on this list. I'm also surprised to see a Doors track that's not completely cliché.
 

She looks like a 10 year old girl who's not getting her way.

Hello angry & opinionated human beings.
 
I can only speak for myself, so I will. Being raped is no fun. I've had experience with that. I always have hated when people want to mask the problem of rape & sexual abuse. For a long time I felt like "I was the only one who knew how it felt". That whole "you were asking for it" argument..  As I got older and submersed myself into darker art forms that showcase all sides of the human psyche & human behaviors, I came to an understanding. It's a very real, human experience not to be portrayed like a "Lifetime special". There has been some comfort in seeing rape portrayed as real as possible, because it allows people who have never been through that situation to gain some understanding and compassion towards people who have gone through it. I've read autobiographies of people describing how they were raped or abused, I've spoken to people who went through it. Bonding with others helped heal my pain. I became unashamed. I wasn't at fault. By being ashamed about sharing my past, I felt that put me at fault. I wasn't making myself available to other people who need to know they are not alone/at fault. Sharing an experience doesn't glorify that experience, it humanizes it for others to relate to it. Relating to a rape scene shouldn't be a shameful thing. It's staring a problem in the face and saying something about it. I commend actors who want to portray rape scenes properly. Any artist who makes something ugly instead of making something perfect & beautiful. The ones who tell the scary stories w/o endings. It should make you feel something. Pain, confusion, anger, fear, etc. but not towards the actors & people involved in creating the art. Just towards the action itself. I once had a teacher in cultural anthropology who refused to believe that our predecessors could have also been rapists. She claimed that rape was a new fangled action, that came along more recently in the history of humans. That kind of thinking insulted me a bit, because I feel like rape is very common, but also so frowned upon, it is silenced throughout history. If you silence an artist from conveying something that has influenced them, you are diluting the truth. Rape is real, and it shouldn't be something we want to close our eyes, ears, and hearts from because it is wrong. That is the wrong attitude to have. We should be discussing it. We should be able to look at a video like this one and be able to learn from it. Realize that someone needs to talk about it, or at least have an outlet to express their thoughts on it. 

Here's a list of fonts used for LDR's albums:
 
 
Born To Die - Steelfish extra bold
Lana Del Ray A.K.A Lizzy Grant - Impact
Kill Kill EP - Arial Black
Sirens - Trajan *fanmade*
Logo - Based on Caslon Swash
 
you can download them all for free for your computer if you want to make edits.

"New to town with a made up name in the angel city,
Chasing fortune and fame.
And the camera flashes, make it look like a dream.
You had it figured out since you were in school.
Everybody loves pretty, everybody loves cool.
So overnight you look like a sixties’ queen.
 
Another name goes up in lights, like diamonds in the sky.
 
And they’ll tell you now, you’re the lucky one.
Yeah, they’ll tell you now, you’re the lucky one.
But can you tell me now, you’re the lucky one.
 
Now it’s big black cars, and Riviera views,
And your lover in the foyer doesn’t even know you"
 

"he said can you party later on?"
he said... "no"

 
 
 
 
 
"promise you'll remember that you're mine"
"no"

 
 
 
 
 
"tell me i'm your national anthem!"
"no"

 
 
 
 
 
 
this is seriously the best thing ever.

Idk why but hearing her say words like "aesthetic" and "sonically" is really just sonically pleasing to MY aesthetic

The hip swinging action

 

 

 

I started translating the article, but everything may not be perfect, so… Be indulgent guys!!
 
 
 
The many shades of a young and beautiful girl
 
 
In a very short time, Lana Del Rey has become one of the most famous artists of this decade. For Grazia magazine, she remembers her strongest moments of 2014 and talks about the future, her next album and the madness of fame at the time of Twitter and Instagram. A very shy star.
There is something really strange in the eyes of this young lady, a flash of lightning that comes right to her hands, swallowing around her tattered jeans. This is the lightning of her phlegm, the way she moves and talks. Here she is, right in front of us, quiet and mysterious, and yet she seems to not be really aware of her terrible charms. Then it appears hard to explain exactly what she inspires to us - is she just a good-looking girl? To be fair, she’s far from this archetype. An assumption comes to our mind when she starts posing for the photographer: Lana Del Rey is gracious, yet obstinate. Fragile, but confidente. She is a shy star who fell on earth to possess (or even haunt?) the body of a 2010s pop star. And this duality is responsible for her unpredictable personality. She’s probably the only one who’d be ok for an interview in such a short time before the end of the year (when usually it takes months before getting a proper interview of anyone really famous). We had asked her last Wednesday by mail, and only a few days later we were on the way to meet her in a city similar to Los Angeles (where she currently lives), New York city (where she goes whenever she can) and Paris. Yeah, we’re talking about London. That’s it, the strange freedom of this singer made of paradoxes: being able to control every aspect of her career and suddenly deviate from her initial path if she feels the need to do it. Taking time for herself, and giving to the others, investing all her energy into her interlocutor’s comfort if she feels relaxed with them. Our meeting could have lasted one day, one night, one week, one month or one life-long, with Lana, we never know. While we were chatting, she recalled that, when we first interviewed her two years ago, we had noticed how long her nails were. She showed them up again and told us that she had just shortened them. Then she started drawing little palm-trees in the sketchbook that was laid on the table while playing us some extracts of songs she plans to record. She also asked us our respective birth dates and started talking about astrological signs and american writer Joan Didion… Despite all of this curiosity, Lana never revealed herself completly. That is probably what makes her such a modern woman. She still is under her thirties and wears all the typical features of her generation (which is usually called X, Y or even Z depending on who you will be talking to). And although she is a celebrity, she is very discreet when it comes to her personal life. And although she has millions of fans over the world, she remains true to herself. She chose to sing her love and her lovers, but keeps protecting her privacy. Well, at least she tries to keep protecting it… The conversation that follows is a rare insight into Del Rey’s perception of the various events that marked 2014 and the release of her newest album, Ultraviolence. This interview is the first she gave for a very long time.
 
How was your year?
I’d say unusual. I’ve been messing up everything: I toured, from april to june, before releasing the album, and then I did absolutely nothing. I was really happy with how Ultraviolence sounded; but now when I hear it again, I start thinking about hunches I got when I still was writing the songs. These things make me think I went too far. I’ve been in some awful situations, you know, situations that I couldn’t control, that I didn’t even want to create. Especially with journalists, the one from Rolling Stone and the one from the Guardian, and all the others who were always asking me the same goddamn questions… “Do you really wish you were dead?”, “Did you fuck with someone in the industry?” Obviously, when I wrote tracks like Fucked My Way Up To The Top, I knew such kind of things would happen, and I should have simply answered “no”, I should have moved on.
 
What is your state of mind now?
I’m afraid this album will be forgotten. I’m always afraid good things will be forgotten, burried. Musically, I’m still looking for something different, with majestic choruses, beautiful orchestrations, a type of 50s vibe with a bit of soft grunge. Since march, I’ve been writing a lot of new songs, in a more conventional way -the verses, then the refrain, with a strong jazzy influence. I’m having a lot of fun with all of that. And next year, I’ll tour across the USA. I’ve been doing it only once before and I was really moved, especially in Detroit where I could feel the weight of its History. So, that’s why I decided I wanted to do it again, this time with my friend Courtney Love, for two months. My new album will come out after, maybe for late-august.
Did you writing style change for this next record?
My lyrics are very similar to me, who I truly am, but I must admit that I’m currently trying to do some new things. It’s a bit surrealist, full of colors. I feel much more inspired by people like Mark Ryden, Fellini or Picasso… Oh, I’m totally fond of this documentary: “Fellini : I’m a Born Liar”, which explains that the film-maker was in love with his hometown, and each of his movies is like one of its facets. I like his idea, the fact that truth should never impede to a beautiful lie… (she smiles)

You seem to like evoking the 50s imagery in your songs: the golden age of recording studios, ladies singing late at night with their big band…
Yeah, I love it. I love nightlife, the mood that comes from it. That’s why I wanted to meet Mark Ronson: I played him ten songs I just composed for this next album. Not so much that he added his usual signature, soul and funk, but rather it explores a sound close to the golden age of jazz. I wasn’t even born in the 50s but I feel like I was there. And when I still was living in New York, I was looking for this dream, maybe some other girls had the same, to live as a singer in a jazz club where I could sing some standards, but my own compositions too. I had a very ‘romantic’ vision of what a singer’s life should be. I daydreamed about tours in Europe, just like Chet Baker did, for example.
 
You like drama, right? You find it attracting?
I don’t. I came in [the music business] without any drama in me. But immediately, things started to get heavier.
 
Isn’t it strange to be nostalgic of an era you never lived?
Yes, yes it is and it might be the reason why I never really had a lot of friends -only those who feel, just as me, connected to the past and the future at the same time. And we are not many out there. I’m firend with James Franco… He’s one of the very few people I feel like really linked to the past, the actors of the past, the California of the 60s, and the New York of the 70s.
 
You grew up in a small town near the Adirondacks. Do you miss the places of your childhood?
Yes… The house is full of memories. It’s hard for me to come back there… I did two weeks ago, I was coming from New York, for the first time in four years. My room hasn’t changed. There’s the same poster as ever pinned on the wall, but everything seemed much smaller to me…
 
You did a cover of ‘The Other Woman’, which was already famous for Nina Simone’s interpretation. The song is about a love triangle. But your version isn’t very clear: we don’t know which point of view, which ‘other woman’ you finally are in the song. So, I’m asking you: who are you? Are you the wife, the mistress, or even the husband himself?
I always wanted to cover this song. I’ve been constantly listening to it for years. It’s interesting to see an ambiguity in the lyrics… (she starts humming a bit of it) I think I’ve always been ‘the other woman’ in a sense, well at least I always felt this way. I don’t necessarily wanna be at the edge of everything, but it’s a fact, I’m a kind of outsider. I’m always the one who stands outside of the circle. Even in my private life, I often feel like overwhelmed by what happens around me. That said, I already played the part of the normal girlfriend, the more ‘legitimate’ one…
 
Do you feel like you are the spectator of your own life?
More and more. With the Internet, now, when you are with someone else, it’s very different. People do not know you only from what you chose to tell them, they know you from what they’ve heard, seen or read on the Web. This is undeniable, especially when I meet someone for the first time.
 
Even so, are you loyal?
I want to be and I think I am in my heart. If I find someone I love, I will probably love them for ever. I am a very faithful person, emotionnaly, I offer all my trust. But I’m always careful. Because I always see like red flags around everyone new I tend to meet. Finally, I think I like people with a constant temper the best. I don’t want any more surprises in life.

Are you a control freak?
No, not really… OK, I totally am! (she laughs) When I have a sound or a mood in mind, even for a very simple song, sometimes I have to fight to get precisely what I wanted. But I try to chill. Otherwise I’d be doing the same things over and over again… And that’s not what I like in music.
 
Do you think you’re impinged by your perfectionism sometimes?
All the time. When I tour, for example… It’s painful for me to sing the same songs every night.
 
Did you ever want to give up, to erase all this and start afresh?
I have often thought about that, but I can’t. I’m famous.
So, the fame is like a burden for you?
It makes things more complicated than they used to be… I can’t do wathever I want, whenever I want anymore. Now even my hobbies, my other interests are planned. Apart from my private relationship with my family, everything is public. Even my phone calls: I can’t be sure they’re not listened to. You can’t even imagine what people already stole. Basically, excepting my memories and my imagination, there is nothing really private left to me! (she laughs before pausing for a moment) I am a very shy person, maybe even pathologically shy, and being famous doesn’t improve that. I like hanging out, dining in a restaurant, but it became almost impossible for me. Everyone has a phone or a camera… This is odd to say, but that’s what my daily life is made of. I’m always being photographed, even when I’m buying aspirin. Obviously I should have known better. But it is also true that when I started singing, when I was 20, the world was very different. It’s not easy to be quiet now. I never suffered from that; but I must be careful. There are many strange people out there. (she laughs again) I swim carefully in new waters.

Serving Madchen Amick from Twin Peaks realness.

I thought it might be useful to dedicate one thread to the early tidbits of info we are getting about Lana'a up-coming fourth studio album.

Here's what we have thus far:
 
Interview for The Fader:
I’m a big jazz aficionado. Hopefully my next foray will be into jazz. I feel like I’m getting there with songs like ‘Shades of Cool’ and ‘Cruel World’ and a cover of ‘The Other Woman’ by Nina Simone. I’m inching towards what I really love, which is kind of a Chet Baker, Nina Simone-inspired sound. It’s hard to get that sound because you need great jazz musicians. 
 
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http://lizzydelgrant.tumblr.com/post/90085038067

Interviewer: You will record something tonight, do you know what it is, or right now?

Lana: I do, yeah I do. I have this idea for this record called "Music to Watch Boys To," so. Yeah, I'm just kind of thinking about that and what that would mean [laughs].

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Interview for Galore Magazine:

Are you working on anything new?
Yeah, I just wrote two songs for Tim Burton and Harvey Weinstein’s film called Big Eyes and I’m working on a new record. I’m also always writing small pieces for independent films etc. Dan Heath and Rick Nowels are two of my dearest friends and producers and we are always up to something.

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Interview for Grazia Magazine

What is your state of mind now?
I’m afraid this album will be forgotten. I’m always afraid good things will be forgotten, burried. Musically, I’m still looking for something different, with majestic choruses, beautiful orchestrations, a type of 50s vibe with a bit of soft grunge. Since march, I’ve been writing a lot of new songs, in a more conventional way -the verses, then the refrain, with a strong jazzy influence. I’m having a lot of fun with all of that. And next year, I’ll tour across the USA. I’ve been doing it only once before and I was really moved, especially in Detroit where I could feel the weight of its History. So, that’s why I decided I wanted to do it again, this time with my friend Courtney Love, for two months. My new album will come out after, maybe for late-august.
Did you writing style change for this next record?
My lyrics are very similar to me, who I truly am, but I must admit that I’m currently trying to do some new things. It’s a bit surrealist, full of colors. I feel much more inspired by people like Mark Ryden, Fellini or Picasso… Oh, I’m totally fond of this documentary: “Fellini : I’m a Born Liar”, which explains that the film-maker was in love with his hometown, and each of his movies is like one of its facets. I like his idea, the fact that truth should never impede to a beautiful lie… (she smiles)

You seem to like evoking the 50s imagery in your songs: the golden age of recording studios, ladies singing late at night with their big band…
Yeah, I love it. I love nightlife, the mood that comes from it. That’s why I wanted to meet Mark Ronson: I played him ten songs I just composed for this next album. Not so much that he added his usual signature, soul and funk, but rather it explores a sound close to the golden age of jazz. I wasn’t even born in the 50s but I feel like I was there. And when I still was living in New York, I was looking for this dream, maybe some other girls had the same, to live as a singer in a jazz club where I could sing some standards, but my own compositions too. I had a very ‘romantic’ vision of what a singer’s life should be. I daydreamed about tours in Europe, just like Chet Baker did, for example.
 
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Billboard Magazine:
 
Lana Del Rey has nine songs written for her next album, titled Honeymoon -- four of which "the production is perfect; I'm looking for a few more songs to tie everything together" -- and thanks to her cinematic new song, she's also in the thick of awards season.
 
Does the Big Eyes song give us any indication of how the new album will sound?
It's very different from the last one and similar to the first two, Born to Die and Paradise. I finished my last one [Ultraviolence] in March and released it in June and I had a follow-up idea. It's growing into something I really like. I'm kind of enjoying sinking into this more noirish feel for this one. It's been good.
You're still writing everything?
I'm doing a cover of "Don't Let Me Be Misunderstood." After doing a cover of [Jessie Mae Robinson's] "The Other Woman," I like summarizing the record with a jazz song. I'm having fun with my interpretation.
I assume you're relying on the Nina Simone versions?
"Don't Let Me Be Misunderstood" and "The Other Woman" are my favorites. I'm so so much [a fan].
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Mark Ronson for Triple J:
http://www.abc.net.au/triplej/media/s4174087.htm
 
Says that he rumors of his involvement with Honeymoon are an "internet thing," but says he has heard "beautiful tracks" and does not want to comment on anything before Lana does. However, he says that he has not worked on anything (yet?)
 
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The Inquirer:
" I feel that the three records were so heavy and autobiographical. It’s been so cathartic. I like to use my previous work as a jump-off point to do something new. I’m ready to go into more of a ‘Lucy in the Sky With Diamonds’ surrealist place. That’s why I really do like what I heard about Fellini and all of the movies that were overdubbed and the actors were counting and not saying lines. I couldn’t believe that.
 
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Inrockuptibles:
"Everybody has asked why I wanted to end Ultraviolence by a cover of The Other Woman by Nina Simone. Because she says everything, because I love jazz and may be because it could a door for what could be the next album."
 
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Mark Ronson for Interview Magazine:
 
"Q-TIP: What are you doing in L.A.?
Mark RONSON: I'm going to do some recording with Lana Del Rey today and tomorrow. I found this cool old studio out here. 

Q-TIP: Are you producing? 

RONSON: I don't know. She has some songs and I said I had some demo ideas, and if they are any good, then maybe she'll like them and we'll go from there. "
 
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On Instagram:

 
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Video from tour saying that the record will be released in September:
https://twitter.com/LanaDeIReyDaily/status/602515526649163776
 
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Honeymoon lyrics found in tour merch:
http://www.nme.com/news/lana-del-rey/85451?utm_source=twitter&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=lanadelrey

Hello angry & opinionated human beings.
 
I can only speak for myself, so I will. Being raped is no fun. I've had experience with that. I always have hated when people want to mask the problem of rape & sexual abuse. For a long time I felt like "I was the only one who knew how it felt". That whole "you were asking for it" argument..  As I got older and submersed myself into darker art forms that showcase all sides of the human psyche & human behaviors, I came to an understanding. It's a very real, human experience not to be portrayed like a "Lifetime special". There has been some comfort in seeing rape portrayed as real as possible, because it allows people who have never been through that situation to gain some understanding and compassion towards people who have gone through it. I've read autobiographies of people describing how they were raped or abused, I've spoken to people who went through it. Bonding with others helped heal my pain. I became unashamed. I wasn't at fault. By being ashamed about sharing my past, I felt that put me at fault. I wasn't making myself available to other people who need to know they are not alone/at fault. Sharing an experience doesn't glorify that experience, it humanizes it for others to relate to it. Relating to a rape scene shouldn't be a shameful thing. It's staring a problem in the face and saying something about it. I commend actors who want to portray rape scenes properly. Any artist who makes something ugly instead of making something perfect & beautiful. The ones who tell the scary stories w/o endings. It should make you feel something. Pain, confusion, anger, fear, etc. but not towards the actors & people involved in creating the art. Just towards the action itself. I once had a teacher in cultural anthropology who refused to believe that our predecessors could have also been rapists. She claimed that rape was a new fangled action, that came along more recently in the history of humans. That kind of thinking insulted me a bit, because I feel like rape is very common, but also so frowned upon, it is silenced throughout history. If you silence an artist from conveying something that has influenced them, you are diluting the truth. Rape is real, and it shouldn't be something we want to close our eyes, ears, and hearts from because it is wrong. That is the wrong attitude to have. We should be discussing it. We should be able to look at a video like this one and be able to learn from it. Realize that someone needs to talk about it, or at least have an outlet to express their thoughts on it. 

http://tiny.abstractdynamics.org/archives/011902.html
 
I wanna know about the cigarette burning.. haha!