Speculations on Lana's relationship with her mother

[LoreleiLee 1,306]

I wonder how it feels to be a happy imbecile

 

I am so glad that you feel better about yourself now.

 

[kik 1,564]

I wonder what it is to wake up in the morning and happily go to the office, pour yourself a coffee in that ridiculous little miss sunshine cup and wait to get back home to watch The Voice as the highlight of your day.

 

Not asking myself where I come from, where I'm going, what's the point of getting out of bed every morning after a terrible night sweating like a pig because I can't even shut down my brain at night anymore.

 

People who don't give a shit about the meaning of life are the happiest according to some fucking statistics.

[LoreleiLee 1,306]

I wonder what it is to wake up in the morning and happily go to the office, pour yourself a coffee in that ridiculous little miss sunshine cup and wait to get back home to watch The Voice as the highlight of your day.

 

Not asking myself where I come from, where I'm going, what's the point of getting out of bed every morning after a terrible night sweating like a pig because I can't even shut down my brain at night anymore.

 

People who don't give a shit about the meaning of life are the happiest according to some fucking statistics.

 

I agree, but what does it have to do with the thread?

.........

Nevermind, you weren't talking to me anyway.

[kik 1,564]

I feel people are blaming me for asking myself too many questions and analyzing Lana's background to find answers to the questions I have about myself and why I am me.

 

I find it sad that some people might think I'm invading her private life to categorize her or judge her negatively, when all I am trying to do is to find answers, find comfort.

 

Somehow, I envy them for not feeling the need to ask themselves those questions.

[Creyk 11,781]

I feel people are blaming me for asking myself too many questions and analyzing Lana's background to find answers to the questions I have about myself and why I am me.

 

I find it sad that some people might think I'm invading her private life to categorize her or judge her negatively, when all I am trying to do is to find answers, find comfort.

 

Somehow, I envy them for not feeling the need to ask themselves those question

 

I wonder what it is to wake up in the morning and happily go to the office, pour yourself a coffee in that ridiculous little miss sunshine cup and wait to get back home to watch The Voice as the highlight of your day.

 

Not asking myself where I come from, where I'm going, what's the point of getting out of bed every morning after a terrible night sweating like a pig because I can't even shut down my brain at night anymore.

 

People who don't give a shit about the meaning of life are the happiest according to some fucking statistics.

 

Did you get your answer boo

[freshlinen2 22]

There's an interview where Lana says her dad thought the opening line of Cola was hilarious whereas her mom didn't approve. I get the feeling maybe her mom was more concerned with seeming proper, preserving decorum and whatnot. The line in Old Money "my father's love was always strong, my mother's glamour lives on and on" is interesting. I mean, she's comparing her father's love to her mother being glamorous, kind of a downgrade. The fact that she mentions her father a lot ("I pledge allegiance to my dad for teaching me everything he knows," "that's the way my father made his life an art," "I heard the streets were paved with gold, that's what my father said") whereas her mom is rarely mentioned in her music (the unflattering "My Momma" and that line in "Old Money") makes me think her father was simply more influential and important in her life. If the Cola quote is anything to go by, her mother seems to disapprove of weird, off-beat stuff like saying your pussy tastes like Cola, and Lana is a weird, off-beat person, so that may have been a point on contention in Lana's family life. Moreover, My Momma shows her disapproving of a boyfriend. Dear Elliott also refers to a boyfriend who was "not approved." Now, My Momma also suggests her mother had a thing for her boyfriend, which is where the song gets weird. And despite Lana claiming her songs are 100% autobiographical, we can't take them at face value.

 

Personally, I don't think her mother didn't love her or whatever. They didn't jibe in some senses; maybe Mom wanted Lana to fit into society more whereas Dad was cool with it. That's what I get from her music and the rare times she's mentioned her. We know so little about her that I don't think it's fair to draw any conclusions about their relationship.

I doubt “My Momma” is about Lana’s mother. I highly doubt Lana calls her mom “momma”. Lana has played around with southern American dialect and stereotypes in her music and I think that song is more of a reflection of that.

[freshlinen2 22]

Wow I didn’t realize how old this thread is. Anyway. About the whole “why did she live in a trailer park her parents/mother must have mistreated her or something” Lana moved into a trailer park after she got a $10,000 advance from a record label. She wasn’t destitute, it was a choice she had the liberty to make. Just a young artist wanting to experience a different sort of life in my opinion, remember she grew up wealthy and she probably yearned to see “the other side”. She elaborates quite a lot and makes up stories so it’s not really helpful to take her at her word or make assumptions of her based on her lyrics.

About the whole “why was she an alcoholic at 14”...I agree with the poster who says Lana was probably just dabbling in alcohol and partying like many young teen girls and began neglecting her school work, so her parents sent her to the more strict, regulated boarding school environment.

 

I think she’s closer to her father than her mother (based not on lyrics but on his public presence concerning her, his Instagram and Twitter accounts, congratulating her, times in public he’s called her a “genius” and commended her work, etc). I don’t think there’s anything to be concerned with there, most children are closer to one parent.

[Roll With me 5,667]

Btw, this thread reminded me that I don't think Lana has any relationship with her parents anymore. We haven't seen Lana interact with Rob since 2015 and even unfollowed him. He continues posting about Lana being in the cover of magazines or releasing singles, videos or albums; but never recent pictures with Lana. And neither does Lana. He used to be with Lana every now and then during specific dates of her tours in 2013, 2014 and 2015

 

I've got to the conclusion that Lana said she's in a better place now and that change is reflected in LFL because she needed to cut relationships with some people in her personal life and maybe she's talking about her parents, I don't know. Or maybe it's not of my fucking business and I have plenty of time to jump into these conclusions. Bye

[freshlinen2 22]

Btw, this thread reminded me that I don't think Lana has any relationship with her parents anymore. We haven't seen Lana interact with Rob since 2015 and even unfollowed him. He continues posting about Lana being in the cover of magazines or releasing singles, videos or albums; but never recent pictures with Lana. And neither does Lana.

 

I've got to the conclusion that Lana said she's in a better place now and that change is reflected in LFL because she needed to cut relationships with some people in her personal life and maybe she's talking about her parents, I don't know. Or maybe it's not of my fucking business and I have plenty of time to jump into these conclusions. Bye

Aw no, I don’t think so. I think she loves her parents and has a decent relationship with them, just likes to keep her relationships private. Rob is very supportive of her (I think Pat just takes a low profile when it comes to the public) and seems like a great dad.

[fl0ridakil0s 3,960]

wow this was an intense reading

[Whoopiedoo 445]

It gave me a headache lol. I was expecting to read things like, "yeah they dont get along." "momma wanted lana to have a traditional yuppie lifestyle" and stuff like that.

None of this psychology stuff...

[TrashMagiq 59,249]

what the fuck did i just read

[evalionisameme 13,904]

So does she actually interact with her parents anymore? I mean like another poster has said she doesn't seem to be as close to her dad anymore.

[Flowerbomb 65,597]

Why is this even a thread? Lana lives in Cali and I assume her parents live in NY. Obviously the older a child gets, the more they drift apart from their parents. It ain't that deep lmao

[Fireffie 3,724]

wow this thread is sure a roller coaster

[Terrence Loves Me 72,915]

I think this is pretty interesting, i dont know why some people are dismissing the subject. There's nothing wrong with speculating

[Formation 4,246]

The actual theory is messy but the idea of this thread isn't crazy. I've always noticed that she's miles more close to her father. I don't think it's that deep since most children are closer to one than the other. Her mom might also just not want to be in the spotlight.

[AnarKissed 281]

There are so many serious and important questions regarding the mysterious origins of Lana Del Rey that remain unanswered, and may continue to remain unanswered until the definitive L.D.R. biography is written, which may not be for another ten to twenty years, or more.

[baddisease 17,974]

this thread is wild.

[Crimson and Clover 22,612]

She was at the Tropico premiere. She's also been in a couple candids, like the Target ones.

 

not to sound judgemental or anything but Patricia looks like the type that literally wants nothing to do with the spotlight. Also whenever Lana mentions "daddy" "my old man" "my father" "dad" in her music I'm pretty sure a lot of (casual) listeners wonder whether she's talking about her dad or her daddy, and I'm sure this was deliberate when writing these songs. It makes the listener uncomfortable and adds to the Lolita persona and she tried to build up throughout the years. Since the Lolita persona has basically died out, I can't really remember any recent song where she mentions any patriarchal figure other than herself.