I identify so much with some of the things that Lana is saying. Not the end of the interview with Lana and Jack basically congratulating each other. But, for example, the need for feminism to create a space for what Lana calls "fragility" (I think "sensitivity" is more to the point); as well as the need for earnest, well-meaning people to speak truth in a culture that is obsessed with keeping up appearances.
I really think a large part of it is different personality types. Some people are amazing at diplomacy, and that is really a valuable skill. There is definitely a place for putting your best foot forward. But there is also a place for speaking the hard truths even when it interrupts the constant striving for positive spin. For some of us, it's less important to make ourselves look good, and more important to participate in "iron sharpening iron" -- actually STRENGTHENING each other. "Faithful are the wounds of a friend." And it saddens me when that hard work is dismissed as not putting in the work of relationship-building.
Frankly, to someone who believes loving others IS telling them the truth, it can seem that those who are focused on image management are the ones not putting in the hard work needed for healthy relationships.
But again, I think it's partly a matter of different personalities having different strengths. I wish we could all learn to celebrate the good in each other, even when it's different, rather than settling for building up self by tearing down others. I'm not there yet. Sometimes when I feel that "my way" is getting stomped on, it makes me want to see only the evil in the "other way." After all, when you're repeatedly criticized for doing right, it only makes it that much harder to see your true flaws.
As far as Lana thinking she's right about everything, I don't see her comments as saying that at all (though the we-always-understood-everything-going-on comments were getting a bit much). I think she's just learned not to fall into the trap of pretending both parties are always somewhat to blame (as someone in this thread said earlier). Part of "keeping up appearances" is sometimes "admitting" to something you didn't do, just to support your own image of reasonableness, or to create the illusion of teamwork. Couples' counseling is a prime example. But I never got anywhere in therapy until I learned to say, "No, actually this isn't something we both do. This is something YOU do, and I'm not going to let you turn it around on me." There's a lot of social points to be scored by "taking responsibility." But for someone who's seeking wholeness, if that means taking responsibility for someone else's wrongdoing, it's just not worth it anymore.
So I think that's what Lana means when she says she's an underdog. She's going for integrity, as she sees it ("fragility" or sensitivity, an earnestness), over image management in the form of power feminism. And in an industry founded on appearances, it means in that sense she's going to be put at a disadvantage when the attacks come.
I think Lana is very brave.